*This photo is taken from a blog post from Brene Brown. I love this idea. Anyone feel inspired to share a picture of their own version?
Saturday, February 23, 2013
Brene Brown takes us deeper into the concept of vulnerability in Chapter 2- specifically, the myths that surround this profound emotion.
On page 41, she writes about how we love seeing other people be open and vulnerable, but we often talk ourselves out of going there personally. She identifies the “crux of the struggle” as:
I want to experience your vulnerability but I don’t want to be vulnerable.
Vulnerability is courage in you and inadequacy in me.
I’m drawn to your vulnerability but repelled by mine (p. 42).
It’s the fear of the critic that keeps us hidden and unwilling to risk showing up and being seen. When Mark and I recently went with two other couples to see Brene Brown speak locally in Houston on “The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting,” she shared some of the online comments that had come from critical, anonymous online voices. They were hurtful and dark- like her worst thoughts about herself manifest. She defiantly and powerfully spoke her truth about her realization about this reality of putting herself “in the arena” on a regular basis, saying that, “unless you’re getting your ass kicked on a regular basis in the arena, I don’t want to hear your feedback.”
I love that. I felt inspired by her speaking her truth in this way. And it wasn’t in a, “ya, go get ‘em!” kindof way. I felt like she was speaking for all of us who are putting ourselves out there and risking vulnerability.
So, I guess I’m wondering, am I “in the arena” in my life? How will I know? A friend recently shared that he woke up in the night with the voice of God clearly telling him to “swing for the effing fences.” I asked him what that meant to him, and he said to, “stop trying to live life and just live it!” Get in the arena!
My one discussion question today is the same one Brene Brown asked herself:
“What’s worth doing even if I fail?”
Next week is Chapter 3: Understanding and Combating Shame. Combating Shame?? Yes please!