Daring Greatly Book Study: Chapter 5

I am Daring Greatly

June 9, 2013

Brene Brown explores the concepts of culture, strategy, disengagement, and authenticity in this brief chapter.

My favorite part of this chapter is this on p. 181:

Minding the gap is a daring strategy. We have to pay attention to the space between where we’re actually standing and where we want to be. More importantly, we have to practice the values that we’re holding out as important in our culture. Minding the gap requires both an embrace of our own vulnerability and cultivation of shame resilience- we’re going to be called upon to show up as leaders and parents and educators in new and uncomfortable ways. We don’t have to be perfect, just engaged and committed to aligning values with action.

Questions for reflection:

1.  What does ‘minding the gap’ (aka living authentically) look like in your family, home, work, school or other environments you live in?

2.  What do you want it to look like?

 

2 Responses to “Daring Greatly Book Study: Chapter 5”

  1. Morgan June 10, 2013 7:47 am #

    1. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how to love well. When I think about how I authentically live, I think I am really good at loving people who I’ve decided are worth it, even if they do something that hurts me or doesn’t live up to my expectations for them. What I struggle with is loving people who I think kind of suck. There are a few folks in my life who just rub me the wrong way. With those people I keep an account of things they do “wrong”, I am impatient and short, and I approach them as if I’m better than they are. (Not a good look; I know.)

    2. How I actually want to love: I would like to be a person who loves easily, without determining whether I think someone is “worthy” of love or not. In actual practice, I think this means extending grace, not looking for evidence that they don’t deserve my love, and being present with them. I also think it means to operate from a place of humility, realizing that I want and need people to love me even when I’m selfish, thoughtless, manipulative, etcetera.

    • Brandie June 10, 2013 1:07 pm #

      Morgan, I hear you girl! If I may, I would add to that loving YOURSELF WELL. So even when we don’t live up to our own expectations, can we still be loving towards ourselves by extending patience, understanding, forgiveness to ourselves? I work on this all the time it seems. Some days it’s easier than others ;)

      This is the work of a lifetime!

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