Friday, February 8, 2013
Hey courageous, brilliant friends!
So, hopefully by now you’ve picked up your copy of Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. My hope is that these blog discussions will be a safe place to explore the concepts presented in the book.
Keep in mind, we are discussing vulnerability and shame. These topics can obviously bring up a lot of emotion (and vulnerability and shame, of course) so I would ask that you please keep your comments here thoughtful and supportive. I honestly don’t know how this is going to go, but I’m game to play with it and hope you are too!
For these blog discussions, I will assume you’ve read the chapter/section and will post a few questions for discussion. Feel free to contribute as much or as little as you like, but I hope you will chime in with your own story/insight from diving into these concepts with yourself.
In the section What it Means to Dare Greatly (before the Introduction), this really stood out to me as a theme of all of Brene’s work as I have experienced it:
Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection. (p. 2)
Questions for discussion
1) On page 9, there are ten “guideposts” for Whole-hearted living, as she defines it. What do you think of this list? If you were to assess yourself and your life right now, how much are you living with your whole heart? What areas do you struggle with the most? I wonder how this might evolve and change as we work through the book. (I’ll start the discussion by posting my answer in the comments below).
2) She mentions on page 11 that living from a place of worthiness does not “just happen” but rather is cultivated when we understand the guideposts (p. 9) as choices and daily practices. Do you practice actions daily or regularly that cultivate a belief in your own worthiness? Would you share what that is? (self-care practices, healthy boundaries, communicating your needs to others…)
That seems like a good place to start. Next Friday, we’ll look at Chapter 1: Scarcity: Looking Inside Our Culture of “Never Enough.”
Enjoy, and I look forward to your feedback below!
Here’s a reminder of our reading schedule, in case you need it:
Introduction: My Adventures in the Arena: blog discussion – Friday, Feb. 8th
Chapter 1: Scarcity: Looking Inside Our Culture of “Never Enough”: blog discussion – Friday, Feb. 15th
February Connection: Friday, Feb 22nd 10 – 11am (subject to change, I’ll keep you posted!)
Chapter 2: Debunking the Vulnerability Myths: blog discussion – Friday, March 1st
Chapter 3: Understanding and Combating Shame: blog discussion – Friday, March 15th
March Connection: Friday, March 22nd 10 – 11am
Chapter 4: The Vulnerability Armory: blog discussion – Friday, March 29th
Chapter 5: Mind the Gap: Cultivating Change and Closing the Disengagement Divide: blog discussion – Friday, April 5th
April Connection: Friday, April 12th 10 – 11am
Chapter 6: Disruptive Engagement: Daring to Rehumanize Education and Work: blog discussion – Friday, April 19th
Chapter 7: Wholehearted Parenting: Daring to Be the Adults We Want Our Children to Be: blog discussion – Friday, May 3rd
Completion Connection: Friday, May 10th 10 – 11am
Brene Brown’s videos including TED talks and more: http://www.brenebrown.com/videos/